Helpful and Hurtful Feedback in the Office?

Barb Van Hare

Let's Look at Constructive vs. Destructive Criticism

Why do we treat “criticism” like a bad word? Sure, no one likes to be told they messed up, but let's face it - we're not perfect, and we all make mistakes. Criticism can actually be a really helpful tool for growth and avoiding future slip-ups.


Especially in the workplace, feedback is key for employees to learn from their mistakes and get better at what they do. Growth can be awkward and uncomfortable, but it can also be super rewarding. So let's start embracing criticism instead of shying away from it.


Here's the thing, though - not all feedback is created equal. Some feedback can be helpful, while others can be downright hurtful. Did you know turnover rates are 14.9% lower in companies that provide regular employee feedback? So, clearly, feedback is valuable. But, it's just as important to make sure the feedback is delivered in a helpful way instead of a hurtful one.


Whether you're a boss or a regular employee, it's time to learn about constructive and destructive criticism. By understanding the difference between constructive and destructive criticism, we can create a positive work environment where feedback is valued, and everyone has the opportunity to grow and improve.


What is Constructive Criticism?

Constructive criticism is a form of feedback that is offered with the intent to help individuals grow and improve. It’s meant to be a positive conversation starter, allowing the employee to reflect on their work and learn how to do it better. This constructive type of feedback focuses on specific behaviors, performance, and outcomes and is given with compassion and understanding.


Many employees value constructive criticism, with research showing that 75% of employees believe it to be an essential aspect of their development. Of course, nobody likes to receive criticism, but it is possible to deliver feedback that is critical but also caring and instructive. When employees receive an assessment that includes tips for improvement, they often appreciate learning where they can do a better job without feeling insufficient.


By providing actionable steps that individuals can take to improve their performance, constructive criticism can lead to improved employee performance, increased motivation, and higher morale. Of course, nobody wants to be bad at their job; sometimes, we all need a gentle push in the right direction. When delivered appropriately, constructive criticism can be a powerful motivator and give employees higher confidence in their abilities.


It is important to note that constructive criticism is not solely negative feedback; it also includes positive feedback that comments on an individual's strengths. Research shows that 92% of employees believe constructive criticism helps them improve their performance, making it a valuable tool for managers and colleagues to provide feedback to their team members.


What is Destructive Criticism?

Destructive criticism is a form of negative feedback aimed at undermining an employee's confidence and self-worth. 

Destructive criticism includes personal attacks, general criticism without specific feedback, and overly harsh or punitive criticism.


Personal attacks can be particularly harmful as they are often aimed at the individual rather than the work they have produced. It feels belittling and disrespectful. General criticism without specific feedback can leave an employee unsure about what they need to improve, while personal attacks can create feelings of humiliation and embarrassment.


This type of feedback can ultimately backfire on the company; the adverse effects of destructive criticism can be far-reaching. It has a detrimental impact on an employee’s mental health, causing decreased morale, demotivation, and reduced productivity. In addition, it can lead to feelings of distrust towards the person delivering the criticism and can even contribute to a toxic work culture.


Negative feedback can also lead to decreased job satisfaction and increased turnover rates. In addition, employees who feel unsupported and belittled by their colleagues are less likely to feel invested in their work and may be less likely to put in the effort required to excel.


The Importance of Providing Constructive Criticism

Constructive feedback helps employers identify areas for employees where they need to improve while also recognizing their strengths. This approach allows employees to take ownership of their work and feel good about what they’re thriving at. It also encourages them to learn from their mistakes and to continuously strive for improvement.


Employees receiving constructive criticism are more likely to feel valued and respected. This can increase job satisfaction and motivation to do their best work. Additionally, employees who feel supported and appreciated are more likely to be loyal to their employer, leading to higher retention rates and a more stable workforce.


Providing constructive criticism also builds trust between employees and leadership. When employees feel the feedback is genuine and focused on helping them improve, they’re more likely to trust their managers and be open to receiving feedback in the future. This can build stronger working relationships, better communication, and more effective collaboration.


Strategies for Providing Constructive Criticism

Providing constructive criticism can be challenging, but it’s an essential tool for promoting growth and development in the workplace while maintaining healthy work culture and relationships. 


When giving feedback, it’s vital to be specific. State clearly what exactly did not work and how the employee can improve it in the future. Vague reactions aren’t informative, but giving specific examples and details can show employees where there is room for them to grow.


Focus on the behaviors rather than the personality traits of the individual. This isn’t a personal evaluation; this is solely about the work. Unhelpful or unprofessional can be worked on and changed, and a personality trait can’t. Remember to zero in on what is at the heart of the issue, which is beneficial.


It is also essential to be open to helping the person find a solution to fix the problem rather than just pointing out what went wrong. This can be a learning experience for both the employee and you.


Delivering feedback in a private setting is essential for ensuring that the individual is not embarrassed or humiliated in front of their colleagues. Additionally, it is crucial to be empathetic, respectful, and compassionate when delivering criticism. This means checking your emotions and ensuring you are not upset or angry before providing feedback. By doing so, you can avoid being overly harsh and regretting your words later on.


Setting your intention is another critical strategy when providing constructive criticism. Before giving feedback, take the time to ask yourself what your goal for the input is. This will help you deliver the feedback in a constructive way that promotes growth and development.


It is also crucial to avoid making allegations based on assumptions. Rather than assuming what went wrong, asking questions first and knowing the facts before offering feedback is essential. This will help the employee to "save face" and avoid unnecessary embarrassment.


Wrapping It Up

Providing constructive criticism is integral to promoting growth and development in the workplace. Employees can improve from practical feedback, and the organization can improve, too. Employees perform at their full potential, are committed to their work and employer, and contribute to a healthy work culture.


By using these strategies, employers can provide feedback that’s helpful, supportive, and promotes positive change. Remember to be specific, provide feedback in a private setting, be empathetic and respectful, check your emotions, set your intention, and avoid making allegations based on assumptions.


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